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- A Reddit user who lives at home with her parents said she “refuses” to fold her brother’s laundry
- The woman said her mother insisted she do it and got angry when she refused
- “I just feel that she’s mad I’m not enabling my brother,” she said, before opening up the forum to fellow Redditors’ opinions
A woman got into an argument with her mother after refusing to fold her brother’s laundry at her request.
The 25-year-old woman wrote on Reddit’ “Am I the A–—–?” forum that her mother got annoyed with her for not folding her brother’s laundry when she asked her to do so, while he was away at his in-laws.
“I just got screamed at by my mom. She insists that I fold my elder brother’s and sister in law’s clean laundry,” the woman wrote.
She explained that her mom “forbade me from putting their stack of clean laundry in their basket” and told her instead to “go and fold” the clothes.
”When I refused, she guilt-trips me and says, ‘If you don’t want to do it, go to your room. Leave me to do all the household chores myself,’ ” the woman recalled. “I retaliated and said, “I don’t even fold my own laundry straight away. They sit in my basket until I fold them myself.’ She wasn’t having it.”
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The woman explained that her 27-year-old brother lives with his wife and her parents and is only home on certain weekends, “so his clean laundry sits in his basket for days on end.”
“He doesn’t have any issues unpacking and folding it himself,” the woman said as she accused her mother of “enabling my brother.”
The majority of readers in the comments section agreed that the woman should not have to fold her brother’s laundry.
“Your brother should handle his own laundry; it’s not your obligation as an adult,” one person wrote.
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“Why should you fold a grown adult’s laundry who’s not even around? If he can’t be bothered to fold his own stuff when he’s home, that’s on him,” a second said.
“Not the a——. Time to move out,” another reader advised the woman.
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Someone else responded that “neither point of view is wrong,” siding with both the woman and her mother.
“This is a matter of perspective. I think your mother views folding laundry as a household chore, regardless of whose clothes are involved, and you regard folding laundry as a personal chore based on ownership of the clothes,” they wrote. “Take the fact that it’s your brother’s stuff out of the equation and ask if the task is something you might reasonably help with.”