A woman is having second thoughts about her relationship. 

A 26-year-old woman shared on Reddit’s r/AmIOverreacting forum that she’s doubting her long-term relationship after being informed that her boyfriend, 26, wants to skip her stepsister’s wedding for an annual music festival. 

The woman began her post by stating that she and her high school sweetheart have dated for six years and lived together for three years. 

“We rarely argue but we’ve been arguing about a subject that neither one wants to budge on,” she wrote. 

The poster continued to explain that her stepsister’s wedding falls on the same day as a music festival that she and her boyfriend attend yearly. When she received the invitation, she made a comment about how they would not be able to attend the upcoming festival. At the time, her partner insisted that he was still going to the festival and she could attend the wedding alone. 

The woman thought her partner was joking and moved on. But later, their friends began to discuss buying tickets, during which her boyfriend informed the group that he already purchased his. When she asked him to elaborate, he told her, “I’m not missing the festival for the wedding.”

“I went for a walk with our dog to clear my head and when I came back, we had a big fight,” she wrote. “I started by calmly telling him that he knew how much it would mean to me if he attended the wedding with me. My family would be asking why he wasn’t there.”

According to the woman, her boyfriend said he “doesn’t want to go” to the wedding. The comment prompted a major argument and she accused him of “being a child.”

“He doesn’t even go to the festival for the music, but as an excuse to get extremely drunk for 3 days straight with our friends,” she claimed of her boyfriend.

The man replied, saying that “he would much rather be a child at the festival than to be bored at my step sister’s wedding, because all of our family gatherings are ‘boring.’ ” The argument led to the woman “sleeping on the couch for a week.”

The following week, the poster “broke down crying” over the situation and her partner comforted her. The two apologized and agreed to “work something out.” The compromise the man came up with was that he’d go to the festival for a few days and then “grab a cab to the wedding and change in the bathroom at the courthouse.” He planned on leaving the wedding early to return to the festival.

“I didn’t have words at first. He genuinely thought he came up with the best idea ever,” she wrote. “After gathering my thoughts I asked: ‘So you will be hungover, stinky from the campsite and won’t even be there for the whole thing?’ ”

The couple argued again, and the woman suggested that he commute to the wedding the evening before so he could get a good night’s rest and a “proper shower.” But he said he “doesn’t want to miss out on Friday night because [he] and the boys came up with a new drinking challenge.”

As the argument progressed, the woman began crying and her boyfriend accused her of using her emotions “as a manipulation tactic.” She decided to stay at her mother’s house, and her parents are “extremely pissed” at her boyfriend. Her stepfather has even commented that her boyfriend should not bother attending the wedding because he will “ruin” the event for her. 

“I agree with my step dad that he shouldn’t attend at this point,” she wrote. “I texted him yesterday to be at the festival and to not go to the wedding. He didn’t reply. The festival starts today, so he’s probably already drunk.”

The woman is now rethinking their relationship in fear that she is “not his first choice and I never will be.”

“I already looked at apartments and I think I’m done with him. But then I start overthinking and maybe I’m just blowing this out of proportion? Is this a good enough reason to break up with him? We’ve been together for six years and it feels a little silly to end it over something like this,” she wrote, before asking if she’s overreacting to the situation.  

In an update to the post, the poster said her boyfriend has texted her back to confirm that he will not be at the wedding.  

“We agreed to talk about the whole thing on Sunday in person. Until then I will be helping to set up the venue for my sister and focus on her. If there will be an update on Sunday, I’ll post it, but until then I’m signing off,” she concluded. 

People in the comments section are divided over who is wrong in the situation, although many agree that the two no longer seem to be compatible. 

One person wrote, “You’re 6 years together, why is it soooooo difficult to skip a festival for 1 year? And even not that, just 1 or 2 days? Is It really that hard?”

Another commentator admitted that they’re “on the fence about this one.”

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“On the one hand, dismissing his proffered compromise out of hand because of the scenario you created in your mind reads as controlling and unwilling to bend on your part. On the other hand, you’ve indicated in other comments that not prioritizing you or your relationship is a pattern for him,” they wrote, before adding that the two seem to “just have different priorities in life.”

A third person added that her boyfriend may have a different perspective on family gatherings, “depending on how his life and family [were].”

Another person acknowledged that “six years is a long time to be with someone” but added that they think their relationship “has probably run its course.”

“You’ve grown up and he has not. Never hold yourself back while waiting for someone to catch up,” they wrote.