• A bride shared on Reddit that her fiancé’s ex-wife has accused the couple of being “inconsiderate” with the choice of their wedding date
• The date happens to fall between her fiancé’s former wedding anniversary and his ex-wife’s birthday
• According to the bride, the ex-wife “lamented that she would never be able to celebrate her birthday ever again”

A bride says her fiancé’s ex-wife has accused the couple of being “inconsiderate” for choosing a wedding date with particular significance to her.

In a post on Reddit‘s “Wedding Drama” forum, the bride detailed how her fiancé’s former spouse, Renee, is not happy that they selected a summer 2025 wedding date — and told the couple that they should never contact her again, even though they had invited her to their nuptials.

According to the post, the bride and groom settled on a date early in their wedding planning process — which she called June 21, for the purpose of the story. Although it wasn’t their first choice for a date, it was what their dream venue had available for the summer, so they jumped at the opportunity.

“My fiancé and his ex Renee have been divorced for [seven] years,” the bride explained.

“They’ve had a great relationship that they’ve built as co-parents and friends over the years, and she and I became friends as well,” she added.

The groom and his ex-wife’s wedding anniversary was June 20, and Renee’s birthday is June 22. The bride noted that before Renee brought up the issue, she never even knew her fiancé’s former anniversary date.

“This did not make me uncomfortable in any way. I’m a mature adult, and a day is just a day,” she wrote. “But [Renee] felt differently.”

“When she learned of our date, she texted my fiancé how inconsiderate we are to choose that day when every other day in the calendar year was available (as if we chose it to spite her) and that she thought she and my fiancé were better friends than for him to disrespect her feelings that way,” the bride wrote. “She then lamented that she would never be able to celebrate her birthday ever again, and we were never to contact her unless it was about our children.”

In another comment, the bride noted that Renee had not planned to spend her birthday with her kids — and “has not done so for several years.”

She explained, “That’s where the drama began, thinking she’d be saddled with them every year because we’d want to celebrate our anniversary alone, which isn’t the case at all.”

Although she hadn’t even considered the date to be a problem originally, the bride wrote that she immediately “felt terrible” after her fiancé shared Renee’s messages with her.

“I never intended to hurt her in the least. I didn’t even know those dates were significant (I also have terrible memory and can’t even remember my own birthday, let alone someone else’s when I’m trying to make a decision about when my wedding will be),” she wrote.

Just a few days later, the bride added, her fiancé’s ex-wife texted them again, this time to say that she was “happy” they were getting married — but that she no longer wanted to be friendly with the couple.

“Having had a chance to think things over, she’s happy we booked our wedding, but that she could no longer be friends with him or me because friends don’t do that to each other,” the bride wrote. “And she was upset that their original wedding date meant so little to him (as it should; they are divorced). Then she calls a few minutes later to discuss it further, only to tell my fiancé that she hates him.”

“My fiancé never harbored any ill will toward her, and saw her as a best friend,” the bride concluded her post. “But it’s become clear that she did not feel the same way about either of us. So she won’t be in attendance.”

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In the comments section, many people were quick to criticize the bride’s fiancé for inviting his ex-wife to their wedding in the first place.

“Why would either of you think someone like that is a friend?” one Redditor wrote. “She had already showed you she wasn’t.”

Others wrote candidly that the bride-to-be was acting like a “pushover,” and would need to stand up for herself, her wedding and her relationship.

“Not sure what the problem is or why you’d let your fiancé’s ex-wife upset you about the wedding day you selected. It’s none of her business,” one person said.

“Both of you need to block her on social media (a shame you can’t on the phone, but there’s kids involved),” the same person continued. “And your fiancé needs to learn to stand up for you and put down ground rules about what he will and won’t talk to her about anymore.”