A woman turned to Reddit for guidance on how to handle her husband’s expectations around meals.

In her post, the woman shared that she recently got married and “everything is going well” except for her husband’s “weird” eating habits.

“I primarily cook in our relationship and I enjoy it but my husband demands that I cook elaborate meals for him late at night. I’m talking gnocchi and pies and meat wraps… It wouldn’t be a problem but I get tired after working all day and it just drains me to cook at midnight,” she explained.

When she tried to bring it up “nicely,” he said that “his mom used to cook his late night snacks,” so he “expects” her to do the same because “he is used to that eating schedule.”

She noted he “seemed annoyed” that she even brought it up, and now she is “wondering if this is a red line for him.”

“It caused a fight and I told him I’m not doing it anymore. He now seems very distant,” she wrote.

She concluded by asking if she was overreacting or justified in not wanting to cook whenever her husband is hungry.

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People in the comments section wondered why the man couldn’t just cook his own meals “at night if he wants it so badly.”

“Yeah I see nothing in this post that indicates he’s incapable of being able to make food himself. If he wants food like mummy made then he can go to back home to his parents and stay there,” one person wrote. 

“What is it with grown men using their mothers in arguments with their wives! You should not see your mum and wife in the same way. He needs to get a grip and cook for himself. You are not his maid,” another person advised.