A woman said her sister wants her to end her family vacation early so she can attend her baby shower — after she changed the date of the event last minute.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A—–“ forum, the woman explained that her sister had set an initial date for the baby shower, but it was moved up because another guest was unable to attend.

However, the new date, the woman wrote, does not work for her, as she is going to be on a family vacation and she wasn’t planning to return home until a day after the rescheduled baby shower date.

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According to the woman, she has “never” been “really close” with her family, including her sister. So when her sibling texted her in a group chat asking if she could come home early to attend the baby shower on the new date, the woman said she was confused.

“I don’t want to do it,” she further wrote of attending the event, adding, “I’m chronically ill and can’t do much. I’ve been at home for over six months, I can barely do anything, and that also resulted in bad mental health. My partner works his butt off and really deserves a proper holiday. As do my parents and my kids.”

The woman also said that changing her family’s vacation weeks before it is set to happen felt “unfair,” and it also posed a risk to her, since it would make her schedule even busier and she “can’t do a lot of things straight after another because of [her] illness.”

And while the woman said she felt like “a jerk,” she wrote that she’d rather “come by another time and bring a present and do something for them.”

As she asked if she was wrong to skip the baby shower, many other Reddit users assured the woman that she was making the right decision.

“No way in hell I would cut my vacation short for a baby shower — especially when the date was changed to accommodate someone else!! That’s honestly an unreasonable expectation,” one user replied.

“There’s no reason in the world for you to make that sacrifice for anyone. You already have plans, serious plans that involve several other people,” they added.

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Another pointed out that the baby shower date was changed to accommodate someone else, which felt unfair to the woman.

“[It’s] ASTOUNDINGLY selfish of your sister to expect SIX people to cut their vacation short for her shower,” one Redditor commented.

“Tell your sister that you just can’t rearrange the holiday, as you’ll lose money,” someone else said.

After reading the comments, the woman posted an update on the Reddit post, thanking other users for their responses.

“It’s a relief that you’re agreeing with me. I get really insecure about this because they’re very good in guilt-tripping me lol,” she wrote.

Ultimately, the woman said she spoke to her dad and told him that she “wasn’t planning on doing it.” He, as well as her partner, agreed she was making the right call.

“I messaged the group chat saying I cannot make it but have fun!” the woman concluded.