When someone offers a relative a temporary place to stay, they usually expect a little disruption, but not a complete takeover of their home.

For one 23-year-old Reddit user, what began as a small favor for her cousin soon became a situation she hadn’t anticipated.

When the user’s 26-year-old cousin asked to stay at her small apartment for a few days after her roommate moved out, the Reddit user agreed.

At first, the arrangement felt manageable and even pleasant, as the cousin helped with groceries, straightened up around the place, and seemed genuinely grateful.

But after a few days, things shifted. The poster noticed she was “not just cleaning,” but also “moving things” – beginning with the bathroom cabinet, the spice rack and eventually the bookshelves.

The situation then escalated when the poster returned home from work to find the entire living room rearranged.

The couch had been moved, the desk relocated and several decorations had been tucked away because the cousin believed they made the space too cluttered.

She appeared proud of the changes, presenting them as an improvement rather than an intrusion.

When the poster simply said, “Oh, you moved stuff around,” the cousin became defensive and insisted she thought the redesign made the apartment look “more put together.”

“I told her I actually preferred things the way they were and that I would’ve appreciated it if she’d asked first,” the poster recalled. “Now she’s been quiet and petty, staying in her room with the door half shut. I’ve spent the evening putting my place back together because it doesn’t even feel like my apartment anymore.”

In the aftermath, she questioned whether she had “overreacted,” wondering if stress had pushed her cousin into overstepping or if she herself was being overly sensitive.

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Commenters wasted no time agreeing with the poster and highlighted the obvious red flags in the living situation

“[Your cousin] is not a tenant or roommate; she is a guest. She has no business reordering your apartment,” one user wrote. “The only thing she should be doing now is thanking you for your hospitality, cleaning up after herself, and resolving her own living situation ASAP.”

Another urged the original poster to get rid of her cousin as soon as possible, writing, “She’s trying to get you to let her stay. She isn’t planning on going anywhere. You better help her see her way to the door. This is going to end badly.”