Some things don’t need to be shared, no matter how close the family.

On Reddit, a woman revealed her sister-in-law told other family members that she used a sperm donor — despite her desire to keep the information private.

She explained that her husband got a vasectomy eight years ago after having two kids, who are now 17 and 22, with his first wife. So when they decided they wanted to have a child, they used a sperm donor, which they didn’t tell a lot of people.

“Some family members know about his vasectomy. My SIL was not told about how we used a donor. Only our parents knew,” she shared. “We wanted to leave it to our son whether or not he wanted the family to know.”

“I ended up telling my husband’s cousin for reasons I’m not going to share, but that is when she dropped the bombshell.. my SIL had told her BEFORE WE EVEN GAVE BIRTH. She was SHOCKED when i told her i never told SIL,” she continued.

“I asked my MIL and the SIL did ask about it but my MIL said to keep her mouth shut and her thoughts to herself,” she added.

The woman is “livid,” and with Thanksgiving just days away, she decided to speak her mind.

“I want to address it with SIL, and just ask why would she take it upon herself to spread our business, and how many people has she told, and why ? Just why? But idk how to go about this,” the woman continued. 

“I’m still hormonal and I don’t want to make a complete ass of myself,” she wrote. “My MIL feels awful that her family has hurt me. They truly are the nicest family ever.”

Her husband told her that he would “support” whatever decision she made, and ultimately, she decided to text her sister-in-law.

She shared the text in the Reddit post, explaining that she needed “to get this off of my chest” in order to “let it go.”

“Cousin told me you told her about our son. It hurts my feelings because A: you never came to us to ask about anything and B: it just isn’t something anyone should be talking about other than us, if we choose,” she wrote in the message. “Who else have you told? And please, just keep our family matters to yourself. Or come talk to us. I’d rather that then people talking and gossiping behind our backs.”

“We will tell our son of course, but we wanted him to hear it from us, not through the grapevine. And our plan was to leave it to him if he wanted it out or not,” the message continued. “I don’t think you meant any ill will or bad intentions. But I’m struggling with letting it go. So i just needed to get it off if my chest. I hope you have a good day.”

People in the comments section were supportive of the woman, but some pointed out that her husband should be the one dealing with the family. 

“Seems like MIL is the person who doesn’t know how to keep her mouth shut. The secret is out so now what do you want to do about that? You can’t control other people so maybe don’t tell MIL secrets in the future,” one user wrote.

“My advice … tell both MIL & SIL (privately) that you’re disappointed with their actions. Your story is not theirs to tell. In the future they should expect you to be very upset if they choose to tell others your story. Then move on. There’s not much more you can do,” they continued.

Another simply wrote, “Your husband should be confronting his family, not you.”